The Happiness Expert That Made 51 Million People Happier: Mo Gawdat | E101
- Former Chief Business Officer, Google X
- Born June 20, 1967
- 3x Bestselling Author
- Host, #1 Mental Health Podcast, Slo Mo
- Founder, One Billion Happy
- Co-Founder, Unstressable
- Chief AI Officer, Flight Story
“The gravity of the battle means nothing to those at peace.“
Mo Gawdat is the former Chief Business Officer of Google [X]; host of the popular podcast, Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat; author of the international bestselling books Solve for Happy; Scary Smart; and That Little Voice in Your Head; founder of One Billion Happy; and Chief AI Officer of Flight Story.
After a 30 year career in tech and serving as Chief Business Officer at Google [X], Google’s ‘moonshot factory’ of innovation, Mo has made happiness his primary topic of research, diving deeply into literature and conversing on the topic with some of the wisest people in the world.
In 2014, motivated by the tragic loss of his son, Ali, Mo began pouring his findings into his international bestselling book, Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy. His mission to help one billion people become happier, #OneBillionHappy, is his moonshot attempt to honor Ali by spreading the message that happiness can be learned and shared to one billion people.
In 2020, Mo launched his chart-topping podcast, Slo Mo: A Podcast with Mo Gawdat, a weekly series of extraordinary interviews that explores the profound questions and obstacles we all face in the pursuit of purpose and happiness in our lives.
In 2021, Mo published Scary Smart: The Future of Artificial Intelligence and How You Can Save Our World, a roadmap detailing how humanity can ensure a symbiotic coexistence with AI when it inevitably becomes a billion times smarter than we are. Since the release of ChatGPT in 2023, Mo has been recognized for his early whistleblowing on AI’s unregulated development and has become one of the most globally consulted experts on the topic.
In 2022, Mo published That Little Voice in Your Head: Adjust the Code That Runs Your Brain, a comprehensive user manual for using the human brain optimally to thrive and avoid suffering.
Julianne Dallas – How Trauma Can Influence Your Relationship Choices
Mo Gawdat – 10/7/2023
My guest today is relationship coach Julianne Dallas. I stalked her Instagram content, like, really almost read all of it. There is a level of honesty in what she speaks about that is truly refreshing. In a way, it openly discusses how feminism works for us, or against us, and how masculinity works for us, or against us. Julianne is a coach with the mission of helping sensitive, brilliant women build happy, healthy relationships with masculine men. Her story is a very interesting reflection about being informed about what she teaches because she wasn’t always in this space – she started in a very different place. Julianne is going to take us through the journey of going through trauma to find healthy relationships between the masculine and feminine.
- 03:00 – How it started
- 08:00 – You’re not broken
- 10:30 – My Trauma
- 15:00 – My dream guy!
- 19:30 – What is a masculine man?
- 26:30 – Do you want kids?
- 29:00 – Be a real man
- 32:00 – Responsibility Vs Control
- 39:00 – Nurturing Vs Mothering
- 45:30 – Solving the problem
- 53:00 – Change and vulnerability
- 58:30 – Be like a man culture
- 01:03:00 – Standing up for your beliefs
- 01:06:00 – Intentions and actions
- 01:10:00 – Testing love
- 01:14:00 – The Heroes
- 01:17:00 – Venus Vs Mars
Connect with Julianne Dallas on Instagram @embodybyjules
Dr. Ellen Langer on Mindfulness and the Psychology of Possibility
Jul 30, 2014 – This Aspen Institute event featured social psychologist and Harvard University professor, Ellen Langer, Ph.D. Dr. Langer is the author of 11 books including Mindfulness; The Power of Mindful Learning; On Becoming an Artist: Reinventing Yourself Through Mindful Creativity; and Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility. The Murdock Mind, Body, Spirit Series reflects the founding principles of the Aspen Institute – a commitment to nurturing the ‘whole’ individual – by bringing a range of experts, innovators, and leaders to Aspen to discuss their research and share the latest revelations about the link between mindfulness, physical activity, and emotional well-being. The series is generously underwritten by Gina and Jerry Murdock.
Dr.Ellen Langer – https://www.ellenlanger.me/
The Danish Way of Parenting
I recently communicated with a previous podcast interviewee, Ansgar Bittermann (2020) – https://www.thesillpodcast.com/tsp162-planetary-postcards-ansgar-bittermann-brainstorming-in-berlin/ who resides overseas, covering a variety of things, including family history, differing cultures, world travel, etc.. He’s a well educated man in his mid forties, who became a father for the first time, nearly 2 years ago, married to a well educated foreign woman, who was raised in a completely different manner and in a culture that bears very little resemblance to his own.
The video, which I took from YouTube and edited, by trimming out the opening and closing minutes (which weren’t pertinent or connected to the interview), and eliminating any possible AD interruptions and/or distractions, that you would incur watching it on YouTube. This is the final product, about 54 minutes long (original on YouTube is over an hour).
I believe this information may be of benefit to present and future generations of children (and of course their parents and everyone they’ll encounter in their lifetime). This is isn’t about touting a perfect society or a perfect solution, as neither is being suggested or promoted. It’s just another exploration or consideration, which will hopefully be of some benefit.
About the Interviewee…
A Parenting Playbook for Raising the Happiest Kids on Earth with Jessica Joelle Alexander
Who really knows the secrets of raising happy children? Parenting expert, researcher and author Jessica Joelle Alexander has devoted her professional life to providing culturally validated answers to this very question. In her bestselling book “The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids” (co-authored with Iben Dissing Sandahl), Alexander reveals the essential parenting principles of the happiest people in the world. For four decades in a row, Denmark was voted the happiest country in the world. According to Alexander, the reason for this is simple: “Happy kids grow up to be happy adults who raise happy kids, and so on.”
But it turns out that parents from everywhere and from all walks of life can apply this successful Danish parenting playbook — referencing Alexander’s easy-to-remember “PARENT” acronym — to raise well-adjusted kids: Play, Authenticity, Reframing, Empathy, No ultimatums and Togetherness. Take off your “cultural glasses” and learn how to improve your family’s well-being with Alexander’s actionable strategies.
Danish parenting expert Jessica Joelle Alexander is a best-selling author, columnist, speaker and cultural researcher. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Time, BBC World News, Vanity Fair, NPR, Huffington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Salon, The Atlantic and many other outlets. She is the author of three books that have been published in more than 32 countries; “The Danish Way of Parenting: What the Happiest People in the World Know About Raising Confident, Capable Kids” is one of the most-sold parenting books of all time. Alexander writes a regular column in The Copenhagen Post, and researches and writes for the University of California Berkeley’s Othering & Belonging Institute.
Esther Perel On 3 Hidden Dynamics Governing Every Relationship
In this session from Summit LA18 (November 2018), famed relationship therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel digs into the three hidden dynamics governing every relationship, explores the self-imprisoning paradox of social media, and lays out why certainty is always the enemy of change.
Tami Simon Interview with Gabor Mate
Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author, and is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Gabor Maté has written several best-selling books including the award winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction and When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection. He’s also the cofounder of Compassion for Addiction, a new nonprofit that focuses on addiction.
In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Gabor spoke about the immune system and how it is connected to healthy, emotional expression, and why it matters so much that we own our healthy anger and express it. We also talked about how our body can function as a teacher, and how he views such diagnoses as ADHD and depression, and how his views differ from the way the medical community views those conditions. He also talked about understanding healing through a bio-psycho-social lens and how a great number of mental health issues can actually be traced to childhood compensation.
Rodman Edward Serling (Rod Serling) (December 25, 1924 – June 28, 1975) was an American screenwriter, playwright, television producer, and narrator known for his live television dramas of the 1950s and his anthology television series, The Twilight Zone. Serling was active in politics, both on and off the screen, and helped form television industry standards
I’ve edited the audio track and slightly modified the video track to fill the screen (video shown below). Here’ s the original video:
An afternoon of questions and answers (recorded in the early 70’s) from the very gifted Rod Serling…
The Social Dilemma – Official Trailer – Netflix
We tweet, we like, and we share— but what are the consequences of our growing dependence on social media? As digital platforms increasingly become a lifeline to stay connected, Silicon Valley insiders reveal how social media is reprogramming civilization by exposing what’s hiding on the other side of your screen.
Noam Chomsky, one of the most important intellectuals in life today, has drawn up the list of 10 media manipulation strategies.
1-The strategy of distraction
The primordial element of social control is the distraction strategy which consists of diverting the public’s attention from major problems and the changes decided by political and economic elites, through the flooding technique or flooding continuous distractions and insignificant information.
Distraction strategy is also essential to prevent the public from becoming interested in essential knowledge in the area of science, economics, psychology, neurobiology and cybernetics. Keeping the audience’s attention deviated from real social problems, imprisoned by themes without real importance.
Keeping the public busy, busy, busy, with no time to think, back to the farm like other animals (quoted in the text ′′ Silent weapons for quiet wars ′′).
2-Creating problems and then offering the solutions.
This method is also called a ′′ problem-reaction-solution “. It creates a problem, a ′′ situation ′′ planned to cause a certain reaction from the public, with the aim that this is the source of the measures they want to accept. For example: letting urban violence intensify or intensify, or organize bloody attacks, with the aim of the public being those requiring security laws and policies to the detriment of freedom. Also: create an economic crisis to make social rights demotion and dismantle public services accept as a necessary evil.
3-The Strategy of Graduation.
To make an unacceptable measure accepted, you only need to apply it gradually, to dropper, for consecutive years. This is how radically new socioeconomic conditions (neoliberism) were imposed during the decades of the 80 s and 90 s: minimum state, privatisation, precariousness, flexibility, mass unemployment, wages that no longer guarantee dignified incomes , so many changes that would have brought about a revolution if they were implemented at once.
4-The Strategy of Deferring.
Another way to get an unpopular decision accepted is to present it as ′′ painful and necessary “, gaining public acceptance, in the moment, for future application. It is easier to accept a future sacrifice than an immediate sacrifice. First, because effort isn’t that taken immediately. Second, because the public, the mass, always tends to naively hope that ′′ everything will be better tomorrow ′′ and that the required sacrifice could be avoided. This gives the audience more time to get used to the idea of change and accept it resigned when the time comes.
5-Reach to the public like children.
Most advertisements directed at the large audience use speeches, arguments, characters and a particularly childish intonation, many times close to weakness, as if the viewer was a few years old creature or a mental moron. When you try to deceive the viewer the more you tend to use a childish tone. Why? Why? ′′ If someone addresses a person as if they are 12 or under, then based on suggestionability, they will probably tend to a response or reaction even without a critical sense like that of a 12 person. years or less ′′ (see ′′ Silent Weapons for quiet wars ′′).
6-Using emotional aspect much more than reflection.
Take advantage of emotion it’s a classic technique to provoke a short circuit on a rational analysis and finally the critical sense of the individual. Additionally, the use of emotional register allows the unconscious access door to implant or inject ideas, desires, fears and fears, compulsions, or induce behaviors.
7-Keeping the public in ignorance and mediocrity.
Making the public incapable of understanding the technologies and methods used for their control and slavery.
′′ The quality of education given to lower social classes must be as poor and mediocre as possible, so that the distance of ignorance that plans between lower classes and upper classes is and remains impossible to fill from the lower classes “.
8-Stimulating the public to be complacent with mediocrity.
Pushing the audience to think it’s fashionable to be stupid, vulgar and ignorant…
Making the individual believe that he is only the culprit of his disgrace, because of his insufficient intelligence, skills or efforts. So, instead of rebelling against the economic system, the individual devalues himself and blames himself, which in turn creates a depressive state, one of whose effects is the inhibition of his action. And without action there is no revolution!
10-Knowing individuals better than they know themselves.
Over the past 50 years, science’s rapid progress has generated a growing gap between public knowledge and those possessed and used by dominant elites. Thanks to biology, neurobiology, and applied psychology, the ′′ system ′′ has enjoyed advanced knowledge of the human being, both in its physical and psychological form. The system has managed to learn better about the common individual than he knows himself. This means that, in most cases, the system exercises greater control and greater power over individuals, greater than that which the same individual exercises over himself.